“Everything that doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.
And later on you can use it in some story.” ~ Tapani Bagge
I fretfully experienced my very first “twitter terror” the other night. So taken aback was I by the episode, that I thought it best to chivalrously share, laugh and learn.
So there I was, innocently and enthusiastically tweeting away, reading blogs, trying to get to know my fellow tweeps, twitterers, twivas and twits , whichever the case may be, when, lo, out of the blue it came. It started innocently enough, with a simple “top of the evening to you,” which was regally reciprocated, along with some other playful pleasantries, and then he dealt me the daunting dare. “Tell me something brilliant,” he said matter-of-factly.
What on earth did he mean by that?! Was he mad?! Maybe he was purging his friend list and I was on the chopping block! What on earth was I going to do?! Blocking my path, was none other than the formidable, inimitable, the one and only, Daniel Newman aka @danielnewmanUV! Just what did that UV stand for anyway? Unholy viper? Unmerciful villain?
My heart started pounding, blood rushing so loudly I could barely hear my own thoughts! Should I pretend I never saw it?! No, can’t do that! What should I say?! Think dammit! Physics, math, psychology, philosophy??? No! Stick to something you know so you don’t sound like an idiot!! What was the last TED topic in our LinkedIn Group?? And round and round I went, fearful and envisioning that any moment my head would be lopped off, landing with an unceremonious thud in a well-appointed bucket conveniently placed nearby. Clearly I was the mad one!
And, suddenly, I was taken back to a time, long, long ago, when a very sage soul once softly observed about me, “I’ve never met a woman who was so confident in her ability, that had no confidence in herself.” At the time, I felt stripped bare before her, ashamed that she saw right through me. And this remembrance lead me to another when she had also perceptively proffered one other meaningful morsel. On preparing to be introduced to my new staff, I had very sincerely uttered, “I hope they like me.” She smiled and looked at me and she said, “You know you’re ok with yourself when you enter a room and your more concerned about whether you’ll like them.” Wow! And here I was living it again. And relieved, I smiled. I was no longer that soft pedalling plebe! It was just a momentary lapse.
So I took a deep breath , “hmmm… no pressure!” (despite that moments before I ‘d almost come unhinged!) And I began. “No more living in fear of judgement. It’s more important to trudge forward and face fears than to cringe in the headlights. Brilliant, maybe not. Authentic, absolutely!” And it was done. And I thought, whatever will be, will be. And I unleashed a slightly maniacal burst of laughter and a sigh of relief. I felt better.
But, you know what? It really was brilliant! Simple and sage. Why had I diminished such an important and meaningful message? And what a hard lesson for some of us to learn. It’s so much easier to guide others , oblivious to the fact that you’re neglecting your own growth.
And most graciously came his response. “Love it! #youmatter” And I smiled. Of course, I mattered. And that meant something. How had I forgotten that for a moment? But, I suppose, everyone falters at some time or another.
Daniel wasn’t so scary, after all. He was genuinely just trying to get to know me better. And apparently the UV simply stands for United Visual – or so he purports. In my opinion, the UV should stand for Unquestionable Virtue, for he is fast proving to be a man of great leadership, integrity and honour.
My head did not roll, at least not this time. And if it had, I daresay, I would have survived. And although my terror was unfounded, it would seem I needed the lesson. And here I am – intact, and actually feeling quite empowered.
This #youmatter campaign, started by Angela Maiers (@AngelaMaiers), is beyond brilliant! It is a purposely powerful gift. And she’s right – these two little words can change the world.
While some are blessed with confidence and comfort, for others, it takes the very special gift. It takes someone else telling them how wonderful they are, before they actually start to entertain the idea and start to believe it.
“There is a spectacular spark of life inside every solitary one of us, that when glimpsed aglow, is spiritually stirred and set blessedly akindle; and when these nascent embers begin to burn, by the Grace of God, our impassioned souls are sanctified and set ablaze with glorious possibility.” SL
So I urge you, to take the time for others, like Daniel kindly did for me, and give them the occasional #youmatter. And don’t forget to give yourself one occasionally too! I give them away quite freely now. There’s no use holding on to a good thought or feeling and not sharing it. We all have the power to make a difference.
I thought twice about writing this. Did I really want the twitterverse to see that underneath my professional portrait there lurked a less than perfect specimen? That, after all this time, I still had my own lessons to learn? I guess, I do.
As alluring a prospect as it may be, I am not here to amass minions to carry out my bidding in some nefarious plot to take over the world. I am here to share and to make meaningful and authentic connections; and authentic connections come from real interaction – listening, engaging and caring about each other.
So I will dare to be myself.
“There’s one thing your writing must have to be any good at all. It must have you. Your soul, your self, your heart, your guts, your voice — you must be on that page. In the end, you can’t make the magic happen for your reader. You can only allow the miracle of ‘being one with’ to take place. So dare to be yourself. Dare to reveal yourself. Be honest, be open, be true…If you are, everything else will fall into place.” ~ Elizabeth Ayres
So, with that in mind, here I’ll be, in all my magnificence – fraught with more than the occasional melodrama. Let’s get to know each other. Life is a grand adventure – and we are not alone.
Shelley Lundquist is an international best-selling author, motivational speaker, and Self-Mastery & Success Coach who uses her intuitive gifts and powerful transformational breakthrough processes to empower audiences all over the world in leveraging the unlimited power of their own potential.
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